Early talk about marriage, our future together. You’ve only known him a couple of weeks and you are talking about marriage. It seems magical. He calls for hours every day. You think that you know him so well, and have known him for years. He seems to get deep in your soul. You both neglect other responsibilities to spend time texting and being excited over each other. It moves so fast and feels so good.
At first you will not perceive this as bombardment. You will initially be flattered that he is paying so much attention to you.
You might spend 10 hours talking on a telephone conversation. Or might receive constant text messages during the day.
This is mind control. The message that you receive is:
- He is really keen on me
- He is really like me, we have so many common interests
- You have known him for far longer than you actually have
It blinds you to reality
It is important for the sociopath to move the relationship forward very quickly. You might notice that he doesn’t actually have a job.
(Editor note: Or he/she has BIG dreams of some multi-million dollar project).
His motive, is always control. By love bombing you, he effectively, in a very short space of time, has control over you. Ownership. He isolates you from other people. You can, within a very short space of time, feel that you have been with someone for 3 years, or that have that feeling that you have known this person all of your life. This gives you the false impression that this man is your soul mate. Someone special, that you do not want to let go of. It feels good.
Editors note: this is written from the male empathy disordered perspective, but females can be narcissistic or sociopathic as well. Empathy disorders fall on a spectrum, take notice if you are love bombed and it is moving fast. Even if he or she is just super needy. Does he use social media to announce your relationship? Is he looking for approval and praise? Does he move quickly from one relationship to another, often beginning a relationship before the last one is over (or he is not divorced yet). Does he say nasty things about his most recent ex (she was nuts, she is trash, she did not know how to do basic things in life – note things you can easily one up the ex on. Wow if the ex could not even cook….look what I can do! I am special to this man. Wow if the ex could not even clean the house … wow look what I can do! I will take care of you. Take note of if he has any exes, or multiple exes, or parents paying for his way well into adulthood. Is he adept at getting others to do the hard work for him?